Strange Questions

Filling out official forms is generally a serious business, but there are just a couple questions on this Form I-129F that made me pause and think, "Wait, really?"

Part 2, 15.a.: He or she [the alien fiancé] last arrived as a: (visitor, student, exchange alien, crewman, stowaway, temporary worker, without inspection, etc.)

Er...would we tell you if he or she were a stowaway? Also, "without inspection" sounds like some kind of euphemism for illegal entry.

Part 2, 33.: Is your fiancé(e) related to you?

Yikes, I certainly hope not!

The rest is just your humdrum information about addresses, birth, family, etc.

A Slight Delay

By Victoria
 
Colin was scheduled to fly back to Northern Ireland tonight, but delays in the first leg of his flight made us decide that he would stay here in Virginia until tomorrow. His flights were supposed to be from DC to Newark, NJ and then from NJ to Belfast, Northern Ireland; the flight to Newark became delayed by about 2 hours, which meant Colin was going to miss his connecting flight to Belfast.

Rather than have him stranded overnight in Newark waiting for the next day's flight to Belfast, we decided he should stay here and just fly out of DC tomorrow (Thursday). The very helpful man at the United counter got Colin a flight set that would give him a 3-4 hour layover in Newark, just in case this happens again, which he seemed to think was likely. He told us that apparently the Newark airport currently only has one ramp for United flights, which frequently causes delays. (PS: Newark is horrible.)

Another slight delay is in regard to the paperwork: one of the forms we have to fill out for this initial petition application is a biographical form (one for each of us). The required information includes things like job history and housing history for the past 5 years, but Colin doesn't have access over here to his files and records to make sure he gets that information right. He's going to bring the form back to NI with him and fill it out, then send it back to me -- since I have to be the one to submit the full petition materials. Based on the time it takes mail to ship between UK and US, it'll probably only delay our petition submission by 1-2 weeks.

Otherwise, it's been a wonderful 3 weeks together. Here's a photo from our visit to the cherry blossoms in DC!

Visitor

Guess who's here for a visit?

He's here until the 23rd!

The First Step: Petition Application

By Victoria

The K-1 Visa process actually starts with the U.S. citizen filing a petition application on behalf of the non-citizen fiancé. So, recently I printed out the main Form I-129F, plus the instructions, plus Form G-1145 to request email confirmation of U.S. Citizenship and Immigration Services (USCIS) accepting my petition. Form G-1145 is really not much more than a box to put in my email address, which you would think could easily be included in Form I-129F itself, but whatever...they can make more paperwork for themselves if they want. 

I haven't actually filled out the form(s) yet, but I did take a highlighter and go through the Form I-129F instructions. The major takeaways are:

1. Submit evidence of my U.S. citizenship with the application. For evidence of citizenship, I can either submit a copy of my birth certificate or a copy of my passport...but I'd have to copy every single page of the passport, which just sounds like a pain to me, so I had my parents mail me my birth certificate. (Side note: There's a letter missing from my mom's name on the certificate: "Sana" instead of "Sanae." Whoops.)
2. Submit evidence of my relationship with Colin. The specific requirement is that we must have met in person within the past 2 years (unless you can prove that meeting in person would cause undue hardship on the involved parties OR your religion/culture doesn't permit meeting your fiancé before marriage). We easily fit this requirement, since Colin has been over here 3 times already (soon to be 4) and I've been over there 2 times. We can submit any combination of photos together, plane tickets, flight itineraries, and passport pages (with tourist visa stamps). We would have saved more of our actual plane tickets if we'd known we would need them, but oh well.
3. Submit evidence that we intend to marry within 90 days on the K-1; this evidence "may include a statement of intent to marry." This, quite honestly, is a ridiculously useless requirement, because from what I can gather, the statement of intent is nothing more than a signed piece of paper saying "I, [name], intend to marry [fiancé name] within 90 days of his arrival on the K-1 Visa." Isn't that obvious given the fact I'm submitting this petition to begin with??
4. Submit two completed Form G-325A (more forms, surprise), one each for the citizen and non-citizen, with biographic information.
5. Submit passport-style photos of both the U.S. citizen and the non-citizen fiancé. We'll get these done when Colin is here in April.

Oh, and of course there's the $340 filing fee...can't forget that, can we? The first of many immigration fees.

I briefly mentioned in an earlier post that we won't be submitting Form I-129F until the end of April. Colin is visiting me from April 3 to April 23 (!), and we're waiting to submit until he's back in Northern Ireland. We can't submit earlier because we found out the Department of Homeland Security (DHS)/Customs and Border Protection (CBP) can view it as immigration fraud if you submit an immigration application and then try to visit the country: Knowing that you're interested in immigration, they might suspect that you're actually trying to illegally immigrate under your tourist visit. Because Colin had already booked his trip before we found out this information, we decided not to submit until after Colin is out of the States again. This will give us time to fill out the application together and also avoid any possible issues with DHS. It also means that Colin can't come back into the U.S. until he's awarded his visa, at which point he'll enter the country permanently anyway. I can still go over to NI to visit him, though.

We're getting closer to the official starting line of this visa process. Everything starts at the end of next month!

Our engagement (by Colin)

In October last year, I travelled across the world to change my life forever.

I entered the United States of America without any questions being asked by the Department of Homeland Security.

I made the journey from Ronald Reagan Airport in Washington D.C. without any problems and ended up on the doorstep of the most beautiful lady I could know.

On October 26th, I followed the advice given to me by Caribou Coffee:

That evening, as the sun went down behind the Washington Memorial, I asked Victoria to spend the rest of her life with me.

She said yes.

I have very little regarding possessions or money, but yet I am the richest person on earth. I have everything I could ever wish for.

I would give my life for you, Victoria. You are my princess, my life, my dream come true. I love you with all my heart.

TLC's 90 Day Fiancé

By Victoria

Recently I’ve been hearing a lot about TLC’s new-ish reality series (the first season finale aired in February already) called 90 Day Fiancé, which follows four couples planning their weddings on a K-1 “Fiancé(e)” Visa. Three people have already brought up in conversation with me, “Hey, you know TLC has this show about people on that visa…” (yes, yes I know) and I’ve been seeing commercials for the show pretty regularly, so as someone in a couple that is about to go through the K-1 Visa process, I was slightly curious about it (although also very skeptical, because it’s TLC). Recently I tuned in and caught just a few episodes toward the end of the series, and I have some mixed feelings about the show.

What I do like is its realistic portrayal of people assimilating to a new country, culture, and family. That is not an easy process on the accelerated timeline required by a K-1 Visa, which requires a couple to be married within 90 days of the non-citizen entering the country on the visa. I do like that the show portrays each of the couples going through a different set of struggles as they progress toward marriage, which to me fits the show’s opening card statement, “This is the story of four couples’ unique journeys” (emphasis mine). And I do especially like that there is a lot of love shown between the couples—Alan and Kirlyam are the cutest!—as well as some of the American family members.

                                            

What I decidedly don’t like is the fear mongering. The storyline of one particular couple, Mike and Aziza (Russia), focuses strongly on the distrust of Mike’s American family, who think Aziza is just using Mike to get U.S. citizenship. One of the episodes I watched saw Mike sit down with his father as his father expressed such moronic concerns as, “If she hasn’t been planning to get U.S. citizenship for a long time already, how come she already speaks better English than me?” Seriously? English has grown to be an international language, and numerous countries require their students to learn it as a second language for practical purposes; if it’s not required, it’s definitely offered. And if she speaks better English than you, then I think that’s an issue on your end, not hers.

Aziza also headed to the salon for a test hair and makeup session with Mike’s sister and cousin, which was intended to be a bonding session for the women and an opportunity for them to get to know each other; however, instead of going with Aziza as she sat in the chair, the two relatives went to a different area for pedicures and gossiped hatefully about their distrust of Aziza’s intentions, including moaning about how they still didn’t know anything about Aziza. She’s sitting on the other side of the salon, for Pete’s sake—if you want to know more about her, go talk to her!

This was followed by an episode featuring a horrifyingly awkward, sorry excuse for a bachelorette party in which the female members of Mike’s family openly distrusted and harassed Aziza for not finding someone in Russia to love instead of Mike. It was disgusting, and although it was spun into a positive by the end of the encounter (by Mike’s mother finally believing Aziza loves Mike only after Aziza broke into tears), it was still pretty humiliating to watch.

I am fully aware there is a stigma attached to the idea of a foreigner gaining permanent residence or citizenship in the U.S. through marriage to a U.S. citizen, and the K-1 Visa is one of the most abused U.S. visas that exist. Believe me: I’m aware. But what kind of environment toward non-citizens have we developed in this country that the first reaction to a U.S. citizen’s engagement to a non-citizen (especially female) is, “Are you sure you’re not being scammed?”

In just the three episodes I watched, Aziza is constantly referred to by Mike’s family—implicitly or explicitly—as a mail-order bride. Are we living in 1910, people? The likelihood of people from different countries finding each other and falling in love increases more and more as online technology develops. Our world is a very open and connected world now. Granted, 90 Day Fiancé doesn’t help alleviate the “mail-order bride” stigma by only featuring couples in which the woman is the foreign non-citizen (how about some couples with male non-citizens, TLC??), as well as couples that have not spent a lot of in-person time together.

As a reality show, of course 90 Day Fiancé will focus on as much drama as it can muster; I just wish it didn’t choose to highlight a stereotype that only further stigmatizes relationships and marriages to foreign non-citizens. There’s more I could say about the show and the issues of perception surrounding K-1 relationships, but for now, suffice it to say that watching 90 Day Fiancé leaves me with both a sweet and sour aftertaste.

Who are We, and What is K-1?

By Victoria


Welcome! We're Victoria and Colin, an international, long-distance couple from the United States and Northern Ireland, respectively. We met in June 2012, got engaged in October 2013, and now we're working on getting Colin over to the U.S. on a K-1 Visa so we can get married and finally be together permanently! We've set up this blog to keep track of our own process and keep family and friends informed of our progress.


What is a K-1 Visa, though? The K-1 is also known as the Fiancé(e) Visa. It's a visa that allows the foreign non-citizen fiance of a U.S. citizen to enter the country, get married, and then stay as a permanent resident (after submitting more forms). Once the non-citizen -- Colin, in this case -- is granted the K-1 Visa and arrives in the United States, he has 90 days to legally marry me, the U.S. citizen, or else the visa expires and he has to go back to Northern Ireland. As long as we're married within that window of time, he can stay in the U.S. That's stage 1. After getting married, we have to submit a Change of Status application to make sure he's registered as a permanent resident, which the Federal Government will then accept, but only on conditional terms. That's stage 2. Stage 3 is then submitting more forms to have the conditional status removed, at which point Colin becomes a permanent resident of the U.S., period.


The U.S. Department of State has a really good step-by-step description of just the stage 1 process involving the K-1 Visa. The actual visa application paperwork and such is located at the Department of Homeland Security's U.S. Citizenship and Immigration Services website though, because the Government likes to be confusing. You'll note that the K-1 Visa is officially considered a nonimmigrant visa because the K-1 itself does not grant permanent resident status.


We'll probably go more in-depth into the K-1 process itself in a later post, but that's the summary. We're getting started on our own materials-gathering and will be submitting the initial petition application at the end of April, so stay tuned! We'll be posting updates from here on out as we get the ball rolling.